How Music Can Soothe the Soul and Help With the Healing Process
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ C. S. Lewis
This quote can apply to many different scenarios in life. There are many times when you have to let go of something or someone in order to move on. A break up between two people can be painful, but if one person cannot move past the pain and start to heal, then they will be stuck much like a kid hanging on the monkey bars. When you let go with one hand to move it forward, there is that scary moment where you are just hanging on with one hand grasping desperately for the next bar and hoping you do not fall.
The same applies if you lose a friend, a loved one, or even something like a dream job: you need to let it go to get over it. Look at things in your own life and what can you let go of. For example, holding a grudge against someone who wronged you years before. Is that really something you want to carry around with you? Those kind of things cause you added stress whether you realize it or not. When you let go of it, you can feel some type of peace.
I feel like this quote resonates the most with me because of my battle with fibromyalgia. I am no longer able to travel as I once did, and my body puts up with a great deal of pain. It is hard sometimes to see the good in my life, but my music and music in general has helped me. Music can soothe the soul and help with the healing process. While listening to music, you feel more relaxed and almost at peace.
It is one of the reasons I created Innocent Tears, the piece for the victims of Sandy Hook, because it was a sad and meaningful experience. I wanted the notes to reach out to those that were hurting as well as remember those precious lives that were lost. They can never be replaced, but with a beautiful composition, they can be remembered always. There are many tragedies in the world, and it is always hard to make sense of things that happen like this, but music is one way we can heal.
There are many ways music can help you, like when you experience a loss in your life. Letting go of someone is simply hard, especially when you do not know what the afterlife holds; it can feel like a hole in your heart. When you are a kid, the monkey bars seem high; when you are on Earth, Heaven seems so far away. No matter what you think about the afterlife, it can help you feel better to think that you will see your loved ones again someday. It also helps us a lot to think they are in a much better place and no longer in pain if they were. It is never easy to lose someone you love, but you have to learn to let go. Going through mourning is normal, and once you have passed the stages of grief and given your heart time, then you can start to heal again.
Music is something that I love to do and something that has helped me throughout my life. I started playing music on the piano at five years old. I learned very quickly from my grandmother. My parents recognized my talent and soon enrolled me in lessons. But once my piano teacher rapped me on the knuckles once, I quit and decided I would just take my chances teaching myself. I was a victim of bullying when I was younger, and music became my way to escape and still is. I was told I had a natural talent, so I just went with it. I followed my instincts, connecting within myself and creating from there. What came out was not the typical type of music, but felt like something more, something I could use to help people in turmoil feel better when listening to it.
I am very thankful that my music has found a place in soothing people’s souls and helping them to mourn their loved ones or any misfortune they have had in life. I might not able to tour anymore, but to still have an impact on the lives of others—even from the seat of my home—is a reward in itself. This is one of the reasons why I stay up late at night creating music to send out into the world: I hope that you, just like me, find the perfect outlet that will help you get through the more trying times in your life.